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The source of new dads' dissatisfaction is their cell phones.‘
From childhood, our relationship was a little different from other father-son relationships, and my father and I assumed it would last forever. However, both the novice father and the novice son who was entering puberty found themselves hurting and being hurt more often than expected.
My father's biggest complaint these days is his cell phone. My son, a sixth-grader, is allowed to play games for two hours a day, with his parents' permission, on weekends only. It's the only time he's guaranteed to play without worrying about what others think.
However, recreational activities are prohibited on weekdays. However, time is allowed for checking school notices, contacting friends, and reading news articles.do.
But sometimes, a father feels his son's behavior is a waste of time, and he gets angry. Yesterday was another example. Dad was exercising on his stationary bike while watching TV in the living room, while his son was lying on the bed, playing with his phone.
Since his father worked out for about 60 minutes, the son had about 30 minutes of free time to lie down after dinner.
Dad felt so sorry for his son. He felt like he could have spent that time playing the piano, reading, or finding more productive ways to relax. He felt it was a waste to waste his time like that. His voice grew louder before he knew it.
(dad)“How many hours have you been wasting your time on your phone?”
He is not the type of son who would just say 'yes' to that.
(Son) ”Isn’t that a waste?”
(dad)“Then what are you doing?”
(Son) ”Are you just reading the article?”
(dad)“Isn’t that a waste of time?”
According to my father's words The thorns grew and the emotions became sharp. The son must have been offended by his father's tone. He was so upset that he burst into tears, and the conflict was resolved only after his mother intervened. It seems he was exercising alone, contemplating various things.
Both my son and my wife are doing their best in their respective roles. But from my father's perspective, their best efforts sometimes seem far from enough. I think my wife and son may feel the same way when they look at their father.
But if Dad speaks sharply like this and creates tension, home, which should be a place to rest and recharge, becomes something else.
When there is someone who makes the family tense and self-conscious, it will be difficult for family members to achieve true recovery.
Let's become mature adults!
In a way, I thought the conflict between father and son might be a reflection of the high expectations placed on the son, who had suddenly grown up. I agree.
My son, who has grown so much like his mother, has matured in so many ways that he sometimes offers solutions I couldn't even begin to grasp. In both body and mind, I've come to expect and hope for many things from him.
He still needs to grow up in the love of his father and mother, and he needs to become more mature and tolerant… This is all the result of his father’s foolishness in not being able to do so.
As I was using #, it was so serious that I felt suffocated.
# I need to approach my son with a more mature attitude.
# Just like my old dad respected me
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